- Forgiveness is not circumventing God’s justice….
—It is allowing God to execute His justice in His time and in His way.
- Forgiveness is not waiting for “time to heal all wounds.”…
—It is clear that time doesn’t heal wounds—some people will not allow healing.
- Forgiveness is not letting the guilty “off the hook.”…
—It is moving the guilty from your hook to God’s hook.
- Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation….
—It takes two for reconciliation, only one for forgiveness.
- Forgiveness is not excusing unjust behavior….
—It is acknowledging that unjust behavior is without excuse, while still forgiving.
- Forgiveness is not explaining away the hurt….
—It is working through the hurt.
- Forgiveness is not based on what is fair….
—It was not “fair” for Jesus to hang on the cross—but He did so that we could be forgiven.
- Forgiveness is not being a weak martyr….
—It is being strong enough to be Christlike.
- Forgiveness is not stuffing your anger….
—It is resolving your anger by releasing the offense to God.
- Forgiveness is not a natural response….
—It is a supernatural response, empowered by God.
- Forgiveness is not denying the hurt….
—It is feeling the hurt and releasing it.
- Forgiveness is not being a doormat….
—It is seeing that, if this were so, Jesus would have been the greatest doormat of all!
- Forgiveness is not conditional….
—It is unconditional, a mandate from God to everyone.
- Forgiveness is not forgetting….
—It is necessary to remember before you can forgive.
- Forgiveness is not a feeling….
—It is a choice—an act of the will.
We’ve all had those moments when, looking deeply into the mirror, we suddenly sense that the person looking back at us isn’t exactly who we expected it to be. It happens to all of us. The important thing is what we choose to do about it.
Do we simply ignore the feeling and go about life as usual? Do we begin to feel frustrated, depressed and dragged down? Or, do we take it as a sign that now is the time to finally pursue and accomplish the things that matter most?
Extensive research conducted over the years shows that every person who achieves great success in their lives and feels most fulfilled, does so by having a clear vision and goal of what they want. It is always at the forefront of their mind, focusing on it, and moving toward it. Having a clear vision and goal is the hallmark of every form of high achievement and success.
Having a vision for your life is a beautiful thing. It makes your dreams feel more concrete and obtainable. It gives you focus, direction and a barometer upon which to make life decisions.
With a vision, you live with intention and purpose because you know where you are going. Without the direction of a clear vision for guidance, it is unlikely you will feel fulfilled because you will not base your decisions on what you want and where you are headed, but instead you will base them on circumstances of the moment.
Try creating a vision of what you want your life to look like in all areas of life, and picture it in your mind every day. Then create your plan to get there, take action with a resolve not to quit, and watch what happens. Even the smallest steps will lead you to your goals.
Have you ever been to place where you feel like you need change? Change the way you are thinking, talking or even maybe change the direction that you are taking. However, you just cannot seem to get past day one or two of the change. Maybe you do not want to change the way you do things, maybe it is that you want to change a job, or change a relationship, that just could be better. Change is not easy sometimes, but it can be rewarding. I have done bookkeeping for over 20 years; it has not been easy making that change from bookkeeper to Life Coach. I may even still doubt my change (every now and then), but then I remember why I wanted to make a change. Change for the better, I love to help people. I had a clear vision and then I set goals from that vision. Proverbs 29:18 (MSG) “If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed”.
What we all must understand is that our level of success is in direct proportion to what we actually get ourselves to do – what we actually act upon, believe in, are passionate about, and willing to follow through.
Extensive research done at several prestigious universities points to the same conclusion: every person who accomplishes a great deal, and performs at optimum levels, does so by having a clear vision and goal of what they want. Having a clear vision and goal is the hallmark of every form of high achieving.
Dreams, goals, and your own innate potential are useless without having the ability to follow through on them. So, what clear vision do you have for your future, or are your hopes merely a dream?
I was reading my Bible this morning from Joyce Meyer’s The Everyday Life Bible which has Life Points on the side. After I finished reading Romans 1 I looked over, I started reading the life points afterwards, and this life point just jumped off the page at me, so I decided to share it this morning.
In ministry, I learned to remain confident in God when someone got up and walked out while I was preaching. In the beginning of my ministry, that type of occurrence brought out all of my insecurities and practically destroyed my confidence. Due to a lack of properly understanding God’s Word, some of our friends and family members told me that a woman should not preach the Word of God. I also knew that some people, particularly men, had difficulty receiving the Word from a woman. This was confusing to me because I knew God called me and anointed me to preach His Word. I could not have done it otherwise, but people’s rejection still affected me because I lacked confidence. I had to grow in confidence to the place where people’s opinions and their acceptance or rejection did not alter my confidence level. My confidence had to be in God, not in people. (Meyers, 2006)
When the growth and progress of my ministry seemed painfully slow, I had to practice being consistently confident. It is easier to remain confident when we see progress, but during times of waiting the devil attacks our confidence and attempts to destroy it. We must resist him. (Meyers, 2006)
Have you ever been here before, with lack of confidence? I know I have. Just stepping out and beginning to do this blog take confidence. Stepping out with my Life Coaching took confidence, and now I’m stepping out with doing workshops and that is taking lots of confidence. Having confidence (faith) in God that I know he will never bring me to a place and leave me there.
Have you ever had a person in your life that just seemed to change from positive to negative. Wondering why they just continue to speak negative things over peoples lives. Talking about the bad things or talking about others negatively. Have you ever heard the saying if you don’t have nothing nice to say, DON”T say anything at all. WOW that would really cut out some gossip wouldn’t it. I had words with someone a couple of weeks ago just on this topic.
When you continue to talk about people from your past you are giving them the power to control your thoughts and heart. For example, Someone had posted some mean things about some people in a church that they use to go to. DO you really think that sharing that information truly made people feel better OR did it stir up strife, anger, discord, anger, and hatred in the hearts of others? I feel that when you are telling your journey in life, if it talks negative about anyone else or another church, It’s not God’s will to spread that to others. No its doesn’t matter if you are tell what happened to you, and it may be true, it may be a lie. There is always two sides to every story.
With all that being said, I believe that God isn’t for us telling our lives journey when it hurts others or causes hatred or discord. For example, when you are telling people that others are gossiping in a meeting and serving people up on a dinner plater, to me, that is trying to cause discord while spreading and planting anger and hatred.
We have to remember that when people read things whether good or bad, that is planting a seed. Someone will come along with a negative or positive statement and water that seed. What types of seeds are you planting in others lives. Are you planting seeds that are positive with your words or are you planting seeds that are negative?
Proverbs 10:19 In a multitude of words transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is prudent.
Proverbs 15:1 A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 18:20 A man’s [moral] self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied [whether good or evil].
Matthew 12:37 For by your words you will be justified and acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned and sentenced.
- Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
- Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
- Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
- Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
- When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
- Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, and express thanks for gratitude.
As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.