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ROADBLOCKS: ?

Today was an interesting day. After spending time praying about my next step with the blog, I asked God where he would like me to go with my blog. Roadblocks have been good. Still waiting to see if there is any roadblocks that my readers may be having an issue with, that they would like me to discuss.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 
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Posted by on March 31, 2012 in Roadblocks

 

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ROADBLOCKS: Lets Overcome Them!

Colossians 1:4 (AMP) For we have heard of your faith in Christ Jesus [the leaning of your entire human personality on Him in absolute trust and confidence in His power, wisdom, and goodness] and of the love which you [have and show] for all the saints (God’s consecrated ones),

According to Colossians 1:4, faith is the leaning of the entire human personality on God in absolute trust and confidence in His power, wisdom, and goodness.

Do you know what that says? It says that my faith is manifested as I lean on God totally, taking all the heaviness off myself and placing everything on Him, trusting in: His power and ability, His wisdom and knowledge, and His goodness and love to do it the way it needs to be done, God’s way and not ours. Sometimes we need to just take our hands off and let God do. I have that problem sometimes putting my hand in to the work instead of waiting on God. I think I become impatient because I like things to happen right now. I have to step back and take a deep breath and say ok God it’s your timing and not mine.

The devil offers us two lies: the “forever” lie and the “never” lie. The enemy tells us the negative things in our lives will “never” change and will “forever” be the way they are. He tells us we will “never” get what we want, and we will “never” experience the freedom or healing we desire. He says you will be the way you are right now “forever.” The devil is a liar! These lies create fear in our hearts, and they are untrue because sooner or later, everything changes. If we continue to believe God and place our trust in Him, bad things ultimately give way to better things. As Ecclesiastes 3 reminds us, there is a time for everything.

We have touch on a couple of roadblocks that we may have to overcome or get through over the past couple of days. If there are other roadblocks you would like for me to discuss please let me know. I am here to help you move forward. I am here to help you overcome your roadblocks. Now these roadblocks can be anything that has you at a standstill, For example, anything like your relationship with God, husband, wife, or children. The Webster has the definition of Roadblock as a barricade often with traps or mines for holding you up: an obstruction in a road: something that blocks progress or prevents accomplishment of an objective.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 
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Posted by on March 31, 2012 in Change

 

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ROADBLOCK: FEAR

Fear results from doubt
When you are not sure, when you hope for the best, then you will fear the worst. When you are absolutely certain, even if it is a certainty of suffering, fear disappears, and strength flows in its place.
 
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Posted by on March 30, 2012 in Roadblocks

 

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ROADBLOCK: Fear

Let’s talk about roadblocks again. I know that I touched just a little on them yesterday.  Maybe you are not dealing with any of the issue’s I talked about so far. So maybe I will talk about a roadblock called fear. Wow that’s a roadblock a lot of people deal with everyday. I know I did at one time. I even think fear tries to pop in every now and then with me. I begin to say scriptures to get fear back where fear belongs. But there are some that fear grips their lives so much, sometimes they can’t drive or walk out their front doors.

Fear is a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.

The first sight of fear is when Adam and Eve hid from God because they had sin, allowing fear to come in, Genesis 3:10 (AMP) He said, I heard the sound of You [walking] in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself. So this fear was brought on because Adam and Eve disobeyed God. So the opening of the door to fear is maybe disobedience, something to think about.

2 Timothy 1:7 (AMP) For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control.

We will continue talking about this in a couple of hours.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 
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Posted by on March 30, 2012 in Change, Roadblocks

 

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ROADBLOCKS #2

So know let’s look at the second roadblock.

Things we have in our life: I see these things as what you have already allowed to enter your life whether it is because of unforgiveness, anger, selfishness, lust, etc. I think you get the point.

Hebrews 12:14-15 (AMP) Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness without which no one will [ever] see the Lord. Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it—

Matthew 6:15 (AMP) But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.

Matthew 18:35 (AMP) My heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offenses.

Removing these roadblocks can be very difficult, but it is possible. I believe that God is an action God. He doesn’t like to be placed in a box or put to the side lines to watch. We have to step out in faith and trust that God is going to finish the work that he started. But sometimes we do have to go back to what caused that roadblock of unforgiveness and ask God to show you who you need to ask for forgiveness or forgive someone yourself. Once you do that God will show you how to move forward. If you have a roadblock of anger and God wants you to deal with it (I’ve been here before, I use to have a bad temper.) I can tell you what I did and it worked for me. Every time someone got under my skin (trust me sometimes it didn’t take much) I would begin quoting the scripture.

Proverbs 14:29-30 (AMP) He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is hasty of spirit exposes and exalts his folly. A calm and undisturbed mind and heart are the life and health of the body, but envy, jealousy, and wrath are like rottenness of the bones.

It’s not always easy to walk the right way. God never said that walking with him would be easy. But what I do know is that he will always be by your side. He will never bring you through a fire to leave you. God wants you to understand what his will and purpose is for your life. My prayer for you today, is that no matter where you are in your life or where you are in your circumstance, for you to know that God loves you and all he wants is a relationship with you.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2012 in Change

 

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ROADBLOCKS

Life can consist of many roadblocks. Things that can hold us back from becoming what God has called us to do, or things we have in our life that stop us from becoming what God has called us to do. Is there a difference, sure there is.

Things that can hold us back: I see these things as what is allowed to entering our life, whether it is through our eyes, ears, or mouth. Kind of looks like some of the five senses doesn’t it. So let’s look at what the scripture says about things entering our hearts.

Luke 6:45 (AMP) The upright (honorable, intrinsically good) man out of the good treasure [stored] in his heart produces what is upright (honorable and intrinsically good), and the evil man out of the evil storehouse brings forth that which is depraved (wicked and intrinsically evil); for out of the abundance (overflow) of the heart his mouth speaks.

 Ephesians 5:4 (AMP) Let there be no filthiness (obscenity, indecency) nor foolish and sinful (silly and corrupt) talk, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting or becoming; but instead voice your thankfulness [to God].

A roadblock like this sometimes isn’t easy to change. Maybe you have a set of friends that listen to one type of music and you are really trying to change the way you think. (Because what enters your ears goes to your heart, and out the heart the mouth speaks) So what do you do about it? Sometimes we have to stand up for what we believe in and explain what you are trying to do. If you lose a friend because you are trying to make good changes in your life, then that person truly didn’t care enough about you and doesn’t see life as you do. Sometimes God removes people like this out of your life so that your roadblock can be removed. I’m not saying to go out and remove all your friends who look at things different then you, I’m saying if they can’t respect the changes that you are trying to make, then begin removing them, maybe it’s time for some new friends.

The bible talks about us renewing our minds with the word of God. I wonder why he wants us to do that. Hebrews 4:12 (AMP) For the Word that God speaks is alive and full of power [making it active, operative, energizing, and effective]; it is sharper than any two-edged sword, penetrating to the dividing line of the breath of life (soul) and [the immortal] spirit, and of joints and marrow [of the deepest parts of our nature], exposing and sifting and analyzing and judging the very thoughts and purposes of the heart.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2012 in Change

 

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ITS A FUNNY THING: ROADBLOCKS

It’s a funny thing; I woke up around 3:30am this morning. Just sitting and listening to the quite of the house. God was speaking to me about something that I needed to change. Change sometimes is the hardest thing that someone can do. I believe sometimes that change can cause us pain. I’m not talking bodily pain (even though our flesh may not like it). I’m talking about the kind of pain that we have to experience in eating our words or even maybe changing our views. One of my pastors last night spoke on love. Her title was Moving Forward: The Missing Ingredients.

Have you ever been at a point in your life that something or something’s were blocking you from growing or moving forward? I found myself there a couple of times. I’ve had to get on my face before God and ask him what I needed to do, who I needed to forgive, or even who I needed to ask for forgiveness. That’s the painful part, finding yourself walking in unforgiveness. I believe this can be one of the biggest road blocks that can hold us back. We all know the scripture says to forgive because our God forgives us. Sure sometimes it not easy. I believe that forgiveness is an action. The problem begins when we think that forgiveness is connected to our emotions. So we say I don’t feel like forgiving that person right now. Or I’m not ready to forgive yet. I had to walk in forgiveness for many years to forgive someone who was abusive in my past. Was it easy, no, It’s never easy (like I said change can be painful). But once the heart became a part of what God was trying to change in my life forgiveness began to happen. I know sometimes it can take years, but aren’t we glad that God’s forgiveness doesn’t take years.

Mark 11:25-26 (AMP) And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him and let it drop (leave it, let it go), in order that your Father Who is in heaven may also forgive you your [own] failings and shortcomings and let them drop.  But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your failings and shortcomings.

We need to give people the grace to change, and we need to have the mercy to forgive. (I loved that statement made by one of my pastors.)

Carrying around a grudge (a feeling of ill will or resentment) is like carrying around a ball of chains around your OWN leg. (It’s like you are imprisoned in your own thoughts. That is all you think and talk about, what that person did or didn’t do.)

For example: If someone said or did something to you or maybe didn’t do something you expected. You become anger and decided to walk in unforgiveness. That person goes on with their life, maybe not even knowing that they offended you, or maybe they do and asked for your forgiveness already, but you continue to hold on to unforgiveness. The best way to get that ball of chains off your leg is by walking in forgiveness. Make up your mind that you are going to forgive no matter what.

Sometimes we just need to get on our face before God and cry out to him. I NEED HELP.

Philippians 1:9-12 (AMP)
9 And this I pray: that your love may abound yet more and more and extend to its fullest development in knowledge and all keen insight [that your love may display itself in greater depth of acquaintance and more comprehensive discernment],
10 So that you may surely learn to sense what is vital, and approve and prize what is excellent and of real value [recognizing the highest and the best, and distinguishing the moral differences], and that you may be untainted and pure and unerring and blameless [so that with hearts sincere and certain and unsullied, you may approach] the day of Christ [not stumbling nor causing others to stumble].
11 May you abound in and be filled with the fruits of righteousness (of right standing with God and right doing) which come through Jesus Christ (the Anointed One), to the honor and praise of God [that His glory may be both manifested and recognized].
12 Now I want you to know and continue to rest assured, brethren, that what [has happened] to me [this imprisonment] has actually only served to advance and give a renewed impetus to the [spreading of the] good news (the Gospel).

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2012 in Change, Roadblocks

 

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