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WHAT KINDS OF SEEDS ARE YOU PLANTING?

Have you ever had a person in your life that just seemed to change from positive to negative. Wondering why they just continue to speak negative things over peoples lives. Talking about the bad things or talking about others negatively. Have you ever heard the saying if you don’t have nothing nice to say, DON”T say anything at all. WOW that would really cut out some gossip wouldn’t it. I had words with someone a couple of weeks ago just on this topic.

When you continue to talk about people from your past you are giving them the power to control your thoughts and heart. For example, Someone had posted some mean things about some people in a church that they use to go to. DO you really think that sharing that information truly made people feel better OR did it stir up strife, anger, discord, anger, and hatred in the hearts of others? I feel that when you are telling your journey in life, if it talks negative about anyone else or another church, It’s not God’s will to spread that to others. No its doesn’t matter if you are tell what happened to you, and it may be true, it may be a lie. There is always two sides to every story.

With all that being said, I believe that God isn’t for us telling our lives journey when it hurts others or causes hatred or discord. For example, when you are telling people that others are gossiping in a meeting and serving people up on a dinner plater, to me, that is trying to cause discord while spreading and planting anger and hatred.

We have to remember that when people read things whether good or bad, that is planting a seed. Someone will come along with a negative or positive statement and water that seed. What types of seeds are you planting in others lives. Are you planting seeds that are positive with your words or are you planting seeds that are negative?

Proverbs 10:19 In a multitude of words transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is prudent.

Proverbs 15:1 A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.

Proverbs 18:20 A man’s [moral] self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied [whether good or evil].

Matthew 12:37 For by your words you will be justified and acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned and sentenced.

 

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ROADBLOCK: Rejection

Please forgive me, its kind of long, but please read it all.

How about the roadblock of rejection, when I woke up this morning, God said to talk about being rejected and what it does to a person’s relationship with God or even others. I know this on a personal basis because I was rejected (I know how it affected my life and relationship with others).

Rejection can become a roadblock with your relationships whether it is with God or others. I know with me, I didn’t trust people easily. Everyone was the enemy until that person could prove to me they can be trusted. I know I had one friend that took over three years before I truly let her become friends with me. I’ll be nice to people, but to truly be friends with me wasn’t an easy road to walk.

You see I was the same way with God. I felt like God had to prove himself to me, Wait he is the creator of me. Yea, I know, but this is what rejection did to me. Rejection makes you not trust anyone, not even your creator. After being rejected by my earthly father (the sperm donor) it affected the way I viewed things. I had a hard time trusting anyone, even God. Why, I knew God loved me, I knew that God would do anything for me if I asked. That didn’t matter to me. I went to church just about my whole life; I had a relationship with God, but at arm’s length. I really didn’t trust him.

About five years ago, I believe God begin to work with me on my rejection roadblock. He knew that I needed to grow more in him, but this roadblock was holding my back. I don’t think it was stopping my relationship with God, but I think it was at a standstill. I prayed and asked God to help me with this roadblock; it was a deep rooted issue.

You see the enemy knows what he is doing when he has your earthly father reject his children. It starts with a seed that is planted by them, then it grows when it is watered by, I wish you weren’t born, or by every hit or punch you receive, by every passing birthday and you receive not even a card or a birthday call, by not even being recognized that you exist. Then that seed grows to such a point that it is painful to see or speak to that person.

This is how I handled my roadblock. I asked God to forgive me for unforgiveness. Then I forgave my dad, (at first it took a little bit to set in, but forgiveness isn’t an emotion it’s an action). Then I begin praying this scripture into my life: Hebrews 13:5b-6 (AMP) for He [God] Himself has said, I will not in any way fail you nor give you up nor leave you without support. [I will] not, [I will] not, [I will] not in any degree leave you helpless nor forsake nor let [you] down (relax My hold on you)! [Assuredly not!]
So we take comfort and are encouraged and confidently and boldly say, The Lord is my Helper; I will not be seized with alarm [I will not fear or dread or be terrified]. What can man do to me?

When my dad died this pass January, Rejection tried to show his ugly head again with me. Because even unto his death he rejected my brother and I by not even recognizing us in his will. It was as though we didn’t exist. But after days of crying and praying, I got a tap on my shoulder by my father in heaven, GOD, who reminded me of that scripture in Hebrew that he would never leave or forsake me.

If this story sounds like you, please know that God loves you with all that is within you. Just get that roadblock moved by using the word of God.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 
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Posted by on April 1, 2012 in Roadblocks

 

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ROADBLOCKS: ?

Today was an interesting day. After spending time praying about my next step with the blog, I asked God where he would like me to go with my blog. Roadblocks have been good. Still waiting to see if there is any roadblocks that my readers may be having an issue with, that they would like me to discuss.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 
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Posted by on March 31, 2012 in Roadblocks

 

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ROADBLOCKS #2

So know let’s look at the second roadblock.

Things we have in our life: I see these things as what you have already allowed to enter your life whether it is because of unforgiveness, anger, selfishness, lust, etc. I think you get the point.

Hebrews 12:14-15 (AMP) Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness without which no one will [ever] see the Lord. Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it—

Matthew 6:15 (AMP) But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins, leaving them, letting them go, and giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.

Matthew 18:35 (AMP) My heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offenses.

Removing these roadblocks can be very difficult, but it is possible. I believe that God is an action God. He doesn’t like to be placed in a box or put to the side lines to watch. We have to step out in faith and trust that God is going to finish the work that he started. But sometimes we do have to go back to what caused that roadblock of unforgiveness and ask God to show you who you need to ask for forgiveness or forgive someone yourself. Once you do that God will show you how to move forward. If you have a roadblock of anger and God wants you to deal with it (I’ve been here before, I use to have a bad temper.) I can tell you what I did and it worked for me. Every time someone got under my skin (trust me sometimes it didn’t take much) I would begin quoting the scripture.

Proverbs 14:29-30 (AMP) He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is hasty of spirit exposes and exalts his folly. A calm and undisturbed mind and heart are the life and health of the body, but envy, jealousy, and wrath are like rottenness of the bones.

It’s not always easy to walk the right way. God never said that walking with him would be easy. But what I do know is that he will always be by your side. He will never bring you through a fire to leave you. God wants you to understand what his will and purpose is for your life. My prayer for you today, is that no matter where you are in your life or where you are in your circumstance, for you to know that God loves you and all he wants is a relationship with you.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2012 in Change

 

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ROADBLOCKS

Life can consist of many roadblocks. Things that can hold us back from becoming what God has called us to do, or things we have in our life that stop us from becoming what God has called us to do. Is there a difference, sure there is.

Things that can hold us back: I see these things as what is allowed to entering our life, whether it is through our eyes, ears, or mouth. Kind of looks like some of the five senses doesn’t it. So let’s look at what the scripture says about things entering our hearts.

Luke 6:45 (AMP) The upright (honorable, intrinsically good) man out of the good treasure [stored] in his heart produces what is upright (honorable and intrinsically good), and the evil man out of the evil storehouse brings forth that which is depraved (wicked and intrinsically evil); for out of the abundance (overflow) of the heart his mouth speaks.

 Ephesians 5:4 (AMP) Let there be no filthiness (obscenity, indecency) nor foolish and sinful (silly and corrupt) talk, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting or becoming; but instead voice your thankfulness [to God].

A roadblock like this sometimes isn’t easy to change. Maybe you have a set of friends that listen to one type of music and you are really trying to change the way you think. (Because what enters your ears goes to your heart, and out the heart the mouth speaks) So what do you do about it? Sometimes we have to stand up for what we believe in and explain what you are trying to do. If you lose a friend because you are trying to make good changes in your life, then that person truly didn’t care enough about you and doesn’t see life as you do. Sometimes God removes people like this out of your life so that your roadblock can be removed. I’m not saying to go out and remove all your friends who look at things different then you, I’m saying if they can’t respect the changes that you are trying to make, then begin removing them, maybe it’s time for some new friends.

The bible talks about us renewing our minds with the word of God. I wonder why he wants us to do that. Hebrews 4:12 (AMP) For the Word that God speaks is alive and full of power [making it active, operative, energizing, and effective]; it is sharper than any two-edged sword, penetrating to the dividing line of the breath of life (soul) and [the immortal] spirit, and of joints and marrow [of the deepest parts of our nature], exposing and sifting and analyzing and judging the very thoughts and purposes of the heart.

I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.

 

 
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Posted by on March 29, 2012 in Change

 

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