- Forgiveness is not circumventing God’s justice….
—It is allowing God to execute His justice in His time and in His way.
- Forgiveness is not waiting for “time to heal all wounds.”…
—It is clear that time doesn’t heal wounds—some people will not allow healing.
- Forgiveness is not letting the guilty “off the hook.”…
—It is moving the guilty from your hook to God’s hook.
- Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation….
—It takes two for reconciliation, only one for forgiveness.
- Forgiveness is not excusing unjust behavior….
—It is acknowledging that unjust behavior is without excuse, while still forgiving.
- Forgiveness is not explaining away the hurt….
—It is working through the hurt.
- Forgiveness is not based on what is fair….
—It was not “fair” for Jesus to hang on the cross—but He did so that we could be forgiven.
- Forgiveness is not being a weak martyr….
—It is being strong enough to be Christlike.
- Forgiveness is not stuffing your anger….
—It is resolving your anger by releasing the offense to God.
- Forgiveness is not a natural response….
—It is a supernatural response, empowered by God.
- Forgiveness is not denying the hurt….
—It is feeling the hurt and releasing it.
- Forgiveness is not being a doormat….
—It is seeing that, if this were so, Jesus would have been the greatest doormat of all!
- Forgiveness is not conditional….
—It is unconditional, a mandate from God to everyone.
- Forgiveness is not forgetting….
—It is necessary to remember before you can forgive.
- Forgiveness is not a feeling….
—It is a choice—an act of the will.
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Have you ever had a person in your life that just seemed to change from positive to negative. Wondering why they just continue to speak negative things over peoples lives. Talking about the bad things or talking about others negatively. Have you ever heard the saying if you don’t have nothing nice to say, DON”T say anything at all. WOW that would really cut out some gossip wouldn’t it. I had words with someone a couple of weeks ago just on this topic.
When you continue to talk about people from your past you are giving them the power to control your thoughts and heart. For example, Someone had posted some mean things about some people in a church that they use to go to. DO you really think that sharing that information truly made people feel better OR did it stir up strife, anger, discord, anger, and hatred in the hearts of others? I feel that when you are telling your journey in life, if it talks negative about anyone else or another church, It’s not God’s will to spread that to others. No its doesn’t matter if you are tell what happened to you, and it may be true, it may be a lie. There is always two sides to every story.
With all that being said, I believe that God isn’t for us telling our lives journey when it hurts others or causes hatred or discord. For example, when you are telling people that others are gossiping in a meeting and serving people up on a dinner plater, to me, that is trying to cause discord while spreading and planting anger and hatred.
We have to remember that when people read things whether good or bad, that is planting a seed. Someone will come along with a negative or positive statement and water that seed. What types of seeds are you planting in others lives. Are you planting seeds that are positive with your words or are you planting seeds that are negative?
Proverbs 10:19 In a multitude of words transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is prudent.
Proverbs 15:1 A SOFT answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 18:20 A man’s [moral] self shall be filled with the fruit of his mouth; and with the consequence of his words he must be satisfied [whether good or evil].
Matthew 12:37 For by your words you will be justified and acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned and sentenced.
- Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
- Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
- Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
- Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
- When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
- Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, and express thanks for gratitude.
As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.
Have you ever been with someone that just seems to have the personality that just does not match you. Maybe your quiet and they are loud. Just image how Jesus feels sometimes. We walk through life everyday sometimes we are so busy or it is so loud that we can’t hear the voice of God. Have you ever been there before? Go ahead raise your hand, no one will see. Sometimes God just needs us to be quiet in him. I believe when this happens God is able to talk. Just be sure to listen.
Psalm 37:7 Be still and rest in the Lord; wait for Him and patiently lean yourself upon Him; fret not yourself because of him who prospers in his way, because of the man who brings wicked devices to pass.
Have you ever found yourself, not able to walk in love? I know that I have been there before. It was as though my heart had turned cold to certain things or people. One day I was watching the news and something happened, I can’t really remember what it was that happened, but what came out of my mouth wasn’t love. God said to me, Sherry where is the love of God that is supposed to be flowing out of your heart. I have to be honest, I was lost at words. I begin to pray that God would help me.
Sometimes it isn’t easy to love people. You know Jesus loved the unlovable and we are supposed to love the loveable and unlovable. 1 Thessalonians 4:9 (MSG) Regarding life together and getting along with each other, you don’t need me to tell you what to do. You’re God-taught in these matters. Just love one another! I know one time I told God, that I just need you to love them through me, next thing you know I was walking in love with that person. I believe that love is an action first and then it becomes a feeling.
I believe roadblocks come in different forms. Been praying today on whether or not to continue on roadblocks or go on to another subject. While listening to an old CD (Kenneth Copeland) on my way to Gainesville today for an appointment, he was talking about fear. Fear doesn’t have control over us unless we allow it to. Something one of my pastors said stuck with me. Your past can’t control you if you don’t look back. Fear is always trying to get you to look back.
Joyce Meyers said one time that God never said, “Feel not” or “shake not.” He said, “Fear not!” He wants us to confront the spirit. We are not to run—not to take flight; but stand our ground and realize that God is with us.
Have you ever found yourself at a place in life that you were wondering if only you had done something or even maybe if the decisions that needed to be made were correct. Some people drag their feet all their lives out of fear of making a wrong decision. Confront life and start finding out what is right and wrong for you. Don’t spend all your life wondering. Fear of man can cause people not to fulfill their future.
Luke 12:4-5 (MSG) “I’m speaking to you as dear friends. Don’t be bluffed into silence or insincerity by the threats of religious bullies. True, they can kill you, but then what can they do? There’s nothing they can do to your soul, your core being. Save your fear for God, who holds your entire life—body and soul—in his hands.
Today was an interesting day. After spending time praying about my next step with the blog, I asked God where he would like me to go with my blog. Roadblocks have been good. Still waiting to see if there is any roadblocks that my readers may be having an issue with, that they would like me to discuss.
I am not a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. My training has been in me becoming a life coach and counselor. The primary difference in my training and approach from these other professions is that my focus is on the present and the future rather than the past. My intention is to help you create the life you want by understanding your life now as opposed to diving into your past. This is not to say that I don’t talk at all about the past, rather that it isn’t the primary focus.